Category: relationship

NITHAM ORU VAANAM

An open letter to the characters of Nitham Our Vaanam.

I wrote this letter right after the very first day show of this movie.

A story which speaks a MILLION lessons, reminds me of THOUSAND precious reasons to live life from FOUR characters within TWO beautiful stories to live ONE precious present life given to you.

Dear Meenakshi, you taught me to be strong no matter what life throws at you. The way you carried your life after the loss of your very loved ones, pain, struggles and suffering has all hit the very bottom of my heart.  

Dear Veera, just like what you have told to Meenakshi, it was as if being told to me. You reminded me to always do what I love the most and never ever compromise anything or anyone when comes to my passion and dream.

Dear Mathi, you were the lite. Your energy, sense of humour and cuteness just kept going. You taught me to cherish the life which I am blessed with even after I know I might not be alive the next day. Cheat your death by living and cherishing this life till the very last breath that you would breathe.  

Dear Prabha, no matter how much I tried to hold on to my tears, you just made me have my emotional breakdown at that moment. The way you have accepted your wife’s reality and the life as it is has just hit me that hard. That no matter what it is, no matter how much pain it could cost, if you never accept it, it will continue to hurt like hell. You taught me to accept the pain, heal and move forward.

Dear Shuba, you are that wonderer with the guts to roam around. Like you don’t just sit there! Go travel and learn life in this way. And in such, you are being guided to the life that are meant for you.  

And,

Dearest Arjun,

It’s not only you that learned your life lesson or got the lifeline message from the two stories, but to everyone who are most likely to be in your shoe. And I am one of it.

Arjun might be imperfectly perfect in his point of view, he might be doing all right in his life, he was loyal to every single relationship he has got, and everything goes on smoothly. But you never know when life will be having turning points and redirections until you are forced to detach from everything, accept it as it is, heal and move forward.

Ultimately, to live a happy life is the only reason we are being sent here right! And for that, we are going through everything it has to take for the core purpose to be happy.  

Being happy and being wholeheartedly happy are two different things I learned. If my wisdom could speaks, I will definitely want to be wholeheartedly happy.

MARRIAGE ~ A BOON FROM GOD

I read an article recently about marriage and this article ended up with a question, ‘What it means for you to manifest a boon in a form of husband/wife from God?’

This question might not be really suitable for my current life right now, but I believe it is surely important for me for my future and to be honest, I am triggered with a strong intuition to respond to this question with all my heart.

With every right intention in my heart, I would like to respond to this question as an open letter.

What it means to receive and manifest a boon in a form of husband from God?

Before I begin, I would love to refer this boon as a precious boon in my letter.

Dear love,

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to first and foremost understand his character, personality, the way he is and the way he is not. Understanding comes with both admiration and accepting the way he is exactly. Understanding is a form of love. I truly believe this. Understanding him is a way of contributing mental love to him.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband from God is to contribute emotional love to him. Emotional love is to feel seen, be connected and wanted. Being vulnerable in this bond is not a weakness.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband from God is to spread my love to him spiritually. The energy! My energy, my vibes. I am responsible to uplift his spirit and so do he. Sending him a loving, positive, and uplifting energy no matter where he is, I think this is a very thoughtful form of love I would do for him because I believe in my energy.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to share physical love to him. Both presences are equally important to each other. The touch, closeness, intimacy and fulfilling one’s physical needs and desires is what it means to receive this beautiful boon from God.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to pray for the precious boon daily. Praying for his happiness, health, financial stability, mental clarity, strength, growth, and success. Making him feel blessed to have received me as his boon in his life is a huge blessing for me.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to keep supporting him. All I knew is he would surely be struggling in something that he refused to tell me for the sake not to burden me. But above all, I believe my support would be his strength. Be there, they say. Yes! I would rather be there quietly by his side. I want to be there and support him in every aspect of his life. I would want to ease all his pain with my words. For me, this would be the core purpose of me receiving him as a precious boon from God.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to love and take a perfect care of his family too. His family is just as equally important as my family to me. Manifesting this boon is not being committed and responsible for him only but to his family too, most importantly his parents. His parents means so much to me and I would want to build a beautiful relationship with them. I would be that type of wife to go extra miles for his parents just to witness their smile and happiness. Perhaps I would anonymously gift something to his parents for their special occasion without letting anyone know about it. Trust me when I say I would want to be their best friend.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to inspire him to make himself a priority more than anything and anyone else. Inspiring him to love himself even better everyday is also one of the greatest purpose of me receiving this beautiful gift from God.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to respect him as the person he is and build trust and lots of faith into the divine relationship.

To manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is NOT to give up with him at any circumstances. Loving him is to fight for him, to pray for him and have faith in my heart that God always wanted both of us to be together till eternity.

Last but not least, to manifest a precious boon in a form of husband is to ease his pain, to uplift his spirit, to be the support system he needed by lending my heart, mind, body and soul to him emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. This is exactly how I felt responsible to have him in my life, to love him and to share this life with him.

Above all, to manifest a precious boon in a form of husband means the world to me. When love is there for him to the core, then pain will be there too to the core and we would walk through this journey together. This relationship is divine and merely important for me to be alive in this Universe. I will take care this boon till my last breath.

Sincerely,

Your precious wife.