Upside Down 🙃

Things do turn upside down at some point in our lives.
Sometimes it happens when we are away from our comfort zone.
Sometimes it happens when we are affected with the impact of painful moments in life.
Sometimes it happens when we are about to move on to the next phase of life.

When things turn upside down, we become frustrated and stressed out at the beginning. We are unsettled because our routine pattern is broken. But when the pattern is broken, something happens inside us. We are not who we used to be. We change socially, emotionally and mentally. It hurts initially yet we start seeing things differently.

Every time a pattern is broken, we fall to the ground. We start from zero. Like a child, we learn the new world with fresh eyes. We fall and rise again. And sometimes we rise to fall again. It’s okay. Just keep working on it positively.
While we keep working on it,
We become strong
We become creative
We bocome kind
We accept
And we evolve

Every pain you are facing now, is for the good of the great in you. Focus on the growth.

Life During Pandemic

It’s a curse or a savior?

For some, it brings happiness and for some, it brings aches.

For some, it brings a huge relief and for some, it gives a huge misery.

For some, it brings a beautiful attachment with loved ones and for some, it brings a painful detachment with the loved ones.

For some, it brings a pause button to look back at their life, for some it brings a reset button to amend their wants and needs and for some, it brings a continue button to keep on going to save the world.

For some, it gives a chance to keep in touch with our family members and for some, it made them to keep a few steps away from their families.

For some, it gives a chance to make more new memories and for some, it gives a chance to reminisce those old memories.

For some, it gives a chance to strengthen their dreams and for some, it weakens their dreams.

For some, it gives a chance to let out their breath freely and for some, it made them to hold on their breath deeply.

For some, they called it a freedom life and for some, they called a chained up life.

For some, it brings a pleasant experience and for some, it brings a life threatening experience.

It’s heartbreaking to listen to some people saying “If I go out I will die because of the virus and if I stay in I will die because of hunger”.

It’s heartbreaking to see some of the people are being stuck at their workplace and unable to go back home for a very long period.

It’s heartbreaking to see families are feeling miserable when one of their family members wasn’t there with them during this time.

It’s heartbreaking to see the front liners are being restless after working hard for almost the entire day.

It’s heartbreaking to see people are actually going through life which leads them to a bad mental health.

Here I’m praying to God that everything to be alright soon.
Here I’m praying to God that everyone across the world to be safe and sound.
Here I’m praying to God that we will realise, appreciate and value the nature God has gifted to us.
Here I’m praying to God that we all should practice gratitude for everything we are having now.
Here I’m praying to God that we all would start to take care ourself in order to take care others and also our Mother Earth.

Tough time don’t last, tough people do. Be strong everyone 💪🏽

SILLU KARUPATTI

It’s just a randomly recorded movie which I watched and made me to realize and understand more about life and love.

This movie is love,
A complete love!
A very soulful movie and such a feel good one after a long time and I’m thankful for it.
I guess everyone should often watch this kind of movies these days.
Trust me, it’s a movie worth watching for more than once!

Maybe I liked this movie because I witness a part of myself in Madhu’s character.
Maybe I liked this movie because they highlighted the way life is for some group of people and thus it’s an eyeopening to everyone and especially the people around them. To be precise, a life journey which highlights love, trust, understanding, happiness, support, conflict, anger, pain, adulthood, marriage, parenting and status.

After all, it comes back to the definition which is life is all about the love we give to others.

And definitely not forgetting these words,
When there is love, there is life!

I don’t usually review movies like this to anyone or anywhere but somehow this movie made me to write.

Maybe we could realize and light up the hope of life by giving out LOVE!

To the one who is struggling yet smiling, please take care of yourself!

Have a sit,
Take a deep breath.
I know you are tired
But I want you to
Ask to yourself
How are you lately?
Have you got some sleep?
Did you drink water?
Have you eaten?
Ask if anyone in your life is being toxic to you all this while or if you’re the one being toxic to them in anyway.

I know about the good heart of yours
And I also know the depth of it.
But you need to take care of yourself too.
Make sure you have a good sleep. Nothing is worth than that.

Do things that warm your heart like getting your favourite journal, painting, spending time with your pets or watching a movie or a match or eating an extra scoop of ice cream.

Do things that you’ve always dreamt of doing even if you’re bad at it.
All you need is twenty seconds of insane courage and something remarkable would come out of it.

Listen to your favourite songs including sad songs too. Cry if that helps. And cry if your heart is way too heavy. I know it won’t solve your worries but it would help you to feel lighter. Moreover, it’s the feeling that you’re expressing and embracing.

Healing takes time.
It’s as messy and raw it can get.
You’ll fall down and get up to fall again but don’t ever quit.
Take a hot shower and drink water.

Surround yourself with warmth, books, food and people who feel like sunshine.
If you think that you should spend time by yourself, then go on in your way.
If you think that you should stay detached with certain people including the closed ones, then go ahead.

Listen,
Your mental health is very important. Please take care of it and I meant it.
Practice calmness.
One breath at a time.
It’s okay to feel lost and stuck. This is what life about.
Finding things along the way even though it feels bleak.

No matter who you are and what you’re doing, know that I’m proud of you.
You don’t always have to achieve something great to be proud of yourself.
You can be proud of yourself for the little things like waking up and getting out of bed, walking more steps than yesterday or taking a step out of your comfort zone.
And even if you didn’t, it’s okay.
There are lot more days ahead.

Always have faith on the things you believed the most.
It will never let you down.

Just remember your worth.
That is going to be the thing that either makes you or breaks you.
Please go on the day with a light heart.
And if it’s night time, let tomorrow shine brighter than yesterday.

To the one who is struggling yet smiling, please take care of yourself.

And

You’ll be okay.
I promise.

NIZHALINAI NIJAMUM

This song is one of the most touching song dedicated to the strongest person on earth, MOTHER. I would say that among all the other songs (yes, I’ve a list of songs related and dedicated to mother in my playlist), this will be the one very close to my heart. Every lines from this song resides deeply within my heart and to be honest, when I first came across this song a few months ago, I cried. I cried my heart out hardly that night. Perhaps it’s because of I listened to it at the right time of these very phase of my life.

The name of this movie is Ram. I only knew the other song titled Aarariraro but never came across this particular song. I haven’t watch this movie yet but those songs are truly touching.

And I realised that all I need during my hard times was my Amma right beside me. It doesn’t mean that I ignored or avoided her all this while. NO AND NEVER. And neither my Appa. It was just that I needed her the most these days.

You must be heard that a girl will be always closer to her father more than her mother right. But in my life, it will be my Amma. I seek her for all my good and bad times. Sometimes I don’t story to her everything, but I simply seek her. Just to be with her. To be with her presence. Eventhough I don’t say out much to her whenever I have problems, I feel that when I looked at her or when I spend some time with her, I feel calm and I feel strong just with her vibes.

And that is why I need her the most these days.

One day I just wanna be like her.

One of the lines which goes,

Oththa sontham neeyirundhal pothum amma,
Moththa boomi enakkae thaan sontham amma.

Which means,

All I need is just one relationship, that is with you,
This whole world is mine!

Yes maa, this whole world will be mine in the presence of yours.

I’ve made mistakes. I’ve reacted the way I shouldn’t towards the closest ones.

But, she somehow taught me with different situations. It’s all what I’ve learnt indirectly from both my parents which will be a lifelong lessons for me. And I’m grateful for that.

Again,
There’s these lyrics of this song which goes

Thisai ellaam enakku irulaagi kidaikku,
Enggaiyo payanam thodaruthammaa?

Ennoda manasum pazhuthaaki poochu,
Sari seiya vazhiyum theriyala ammaa!

Suriyan odanjja pagal illa ammaa,
Aagayam marainjja agilamae summaa

Enna chuththi ennanamo nadakkuthe ammaa,
Kandatha ellaam kanavaagi poyidumaa?

Which means,

All the directions seem dark,
Where is my journey going on now?

My heart has broken into pieces,
I don’t know how to mend it!

If the sun breaks down, there’s no day,
If the skies disappear, the whole universe is a fallacy.

There are unexplainable things happening around me,
Will everything that was, go away as a dream, Amma?

I literally wanted to ask the same questions which have been in the lyrics to my Amma.
Because I felt it that way. I was exactly in the midst of confusion, pain and struggles both in and out of my own and of my family.

I’m still learning to handle things in life in the best way.
I listened to this song almost everyday till date and sometimes I kept on playing it continuously when anything hits me hard.

But at that moment, I wasn’t sure whether this song is trying to heal my heart or I need those lyrics to be heard?!

Every verse of this song ends up with questions. Perhaps life is a question right? Throughout this journey of life, we have a lot of questions which are yet to answer.

But life has taught us to keep going on its flow with faith, hope and believe. God knows what’s best for us. We do our part with the best we can while God will take care the rest.

The Peacock Poem

Dear precious creation of God,

Everyone admires your beauty,
Yet only you knows how will be the aches beyond your beauty.

Everyone loves your talent,
Yet only you knows about the uncomfortable moments you’ve gone through when you spread out your feathers just so perfectly and beautifully.

I don’t remember when the first time I saw you,
Yet I do remember what you made me feel.

When a huge crowd gathered to watch you, I noticed your fear at the beginning,
Yet you made a way for your fears to be your strength and never fail to give a spectacular performance.

When the crowd are watching and admiring each graceful steps of yours,
And I’m here at the back of the crowd far away from you, trying to come closer but can’t,
Yet truly proud for what you’ve gone through all this while and I’m here with great respect of who you are from the day I’ve been introduced to you.

You and me are different,
Yet I’m clueless on why my perception on you are way too far and too deep from the perception of other’s on you.

You and me are different,
Yet you’re always a precious creation of God and I’m always blessed to have witness you in this journey called life.

நீ என் உயிர் ஆதாரமே ❤

Poem by,
Yours truly,
Admirer by heart ❤

Be a good listener

When someone is voicing out their problems or their feelings about something to you, listen to them carefully. They need a listener. A good listener. All you have to do is to listen to them without questioning anything to them at first.
Then, give your appropriate response once they let out everything which they feel to share with you. Let them know your opinion or give them a suggestion of solution to solve their problem if only they needed.

And the other important thing is, your mind and heart should be CALM. No matter what you are feeling during that time, it can be negative or positive feelings, you just don’t let your current emotions to be involved or to be seen when someone is voicing out something to you.

I can prove this with examples.

Let’s say you are having a great feeling and literally a good day. You met a friend coincidentally and you noticed that they are sad and depressed over something. They came to you and they tried to open up their problems to you. During that time, it’s not right for you to show your current feelings to them.
I know you are happy but you can’t listen to their story with a giggling heart. And in other way, it doesn’t mean that you have to cry along with them or show your heartfelt sympathy to them during that time.
All you need to do is, be calm and detach yourself from your own feelings and at the same time pay attention to them. Focus on what they’re sharing to you. Feed them those encouragement if they needed.

Remember, when someone is sad, showing sympathy and giving encouragement are two different things. Don’t add up their sorrows with your sympathy. Instead be a good supporter with your encouraging words.

And the other example is let’s say you are angry, depressed or sad over something and you got a phone call from someone. You attend the call and they share some great news to you. I know that you can’t be truly happy for them at that moment because of your current situation.

But you can choose the way to react. And again it all starts from you being calm and detach yourself from your own emotions.
Just because you are going through some hard times, you can’t be showing or sharing it to them at the moment. You can’t be spoiling their day too.

If your current emotions are uncontrollable, then all you have to do is let them know that you are having some rough times at that moment and promise to call them or to listen to them later. And now it’s their turn to understand your feelings.

How you wanna calm the person whom came to you when you can’t calm and settle down with your own current emotions?

That’s it. It all lies in the way we handle those situations.

These are just simple examples but life are preparing us to face all sorts of challenges each day. And those challenges might be between you and the people around you. At the end of the day, it’s all about you putting yourself in other’s shoe before judging, assuming and responding to them.

They share everything to you it means they TRUST YOU. You might be someone close to them or you’ve earned a very special place in their heart. They believed that you have certain purpose in their life and it can only be done by you.

Remember, you listen to understand and not to reply at the first place.

That’s your role when they share something to you.
This message got right deep down my heart and since then I’m trying my best to be a good listener. I’ve done it the other way too and I’m sorry for hurting any of you.
Maturity and experience somehow taught me this. And sometimes I’m relearning some things which once gave me lessons.